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Topic: They won't talk  (Read 630 times)
kruss40444
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« on: December 22, 2011, 02:49:00 PM »
It doesn't matter who I call, no one will tell me anything! I am not the claimant or the "payee" and I am so frustrated.
My husband is also stressed out, we just handle our stress differently, I am the proactive type and he is the it'll happen when it happens type.
I can't decide if I want to scream, yell, cuss, or cry right now. I am trying so hard to be patient and I am positive that the holidays are preventing me from that.

Thank you for allowing me to vent, I don't feel better but at least I got it out!
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Name: Krystal
Location: Ky.
Age at Application: 37
Disability: Spinal stenosis, failed surgery syndrome
Date Applied: 11/2010
First Approval/Denial Date: 04/2011 Denied
Reconsideration Approval/Denial Date: 07/2011 Denied
Hearing Date: 11/01/2011
ALJ Approval/Denial Date: Approved verbally 11/01/2011** in writing 12/13/2011
Additional Info: Back pay 1/09/12
miapoppy
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« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2011, 03:14:40 PM »
I understand where yo are coming from. Some days I  wish I could put a guys voice on and call for hubby because I would ask questions he would'nt Smiley
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"He that is thy friend indeed,He will help thee in thy need:If thou sorrow, he will weep;If thou wake, he cannot sleep:Thus of every grief in heart He with thee does bear a part.These are certain signs to know Faithful friend from flattering foe." William Shakespeare
Name: Fighting for hubby :)
Age at Application: 48/50 today January 28th!
Disability: Recently diagnosed with Renal-Artery Stenosis of left kidneySleep apnea, PAD, COPD,Malignant hypertension, elevated blood pressure. DJD of knee.
Date Applied: October 2010
First Approval/Denial Date: Feb 2011
Reconsideration Approval/Denial Date: Applied Feb and waiting .....Denied April 22, 2011
Date Hearing Notice Received: December 2011
Hearing Date: Applied May 2011. Hearing April 6th 2012.
ALJ Approval/Denial Date: Approval letter April 30th
SSDAdmin
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« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2011, 05:32:36 PM »
Can't your husband get on the phone and give them permission to speak to you about his case?  I know I am ALWAYS handing the phone to my husband and just telling him to say yes whenever I call about a bill or insurance issue as they are in his name.  He also signs on the dotted line on command too Smiley

Marci
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Name: Marci
Location: Florida
Age at Application: 35
Disability: Arthritis, Degenerative Disc, Migraines, Foot Injury
Date Applied: September 2005
First Approval/Denial Date: Denied February 2006
Reconsideration Approval/Denial Date: Denied October 2006
Date Hearing Notice Received: October 2008 two weeks before hearing
Hearing Date: October 2008
ALJ Approval/Denial Date: Letter Received December 2008
Date Award Letter Received: January 2009
Date Back Pay Received: February 2009
Additional Info: Approved at hearing, no Attorney
JTB ~ Jane
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« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2011, 05:47:58 PM »
Quote from: SSDAdmin on December 22, 2011, 05:32:36 PM
He also signs on the dotted line on command too Smiley

You've sure got him trained well, Marci! LoL
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Life is a series of problems to be solved...Abe Lincoln
Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be...Abe Lincoln
Name: Jane
Location: Illinois
Age at Application: 59
Disability: Spinal Cord Injury, Fractured C4, Left-side partial paralysis, severe spasticity
Date Applied: ... 7/21/11>Re-Opened 2009 application
First Approval/Denial Date: APPROVED 11/3/11 ... BACKPAY from 11/08
Additional Info: Rec'd partial BackPay 1/3/12...Balance of 36 months rec'd 2/13/12
Mousey
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« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2011, 07:51:53 PM »
My hubby is the same way. Don't worry about it. It will happen when it happens. Just relax. Ughhhh. Sometimes I would like to show him RELAX!  ranting ranting ranting LOL!

I agree with Marci. Get them on the phone and have your hubby give permission for you to talk to them. Might work?? Hang in there. Your journey is almost at the end.  Smiley  Try and have a Merry Christmas!

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Taking it one day at a time........
Name: Mousey
Location: IL
Age at Application: 48
Disability: Massive Heart attacks 7 stents-COPD-asthma-Spinal Fusion-Fibromyalgia-PTSD-Depression-Anxiety-Agoraphobia-Autoimmune Disorders-Medullary Sponge Kidney & Kidney stones - Graves-Sciatica-Osteoarthritis-Etc.
Date Applied: 10/09 age 48
First Approval/Denial Date: Denied 7/10 age 49
Reconsideration Approval/Denial Date: Filed 9/10 Denied 11/10 age 49
Hearing Date: April 10 2012. Bench Decision..Approved!!!
Additional Info: This process is so frustrating!
Juskev46
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« Reply #5 on: December 22, 2011, 10:49:34 PM »
When my Mother in law had problems with her backpay and payments she called SS and had me on the other line we did a conference call, they were totally ok with it and answered me directly...she just sat back and took notes or asked for clarification every once in awhile
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Location: California
Age at Application: 35
Disability: Mixed Connective Tissue Disease, Osteoarthritis, Solar sensitivity(basically allergic to solar and UV light)
Date Applied: Apr. 12, 2011
First Approval/Denial Date: Initial Denial 9/2/11
cureNF
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« Reply #6 on: December 23, 2011, 11:10:38 AM »
I know how you feel dear! I too, am helping my husband.

He has signed off AT the SS office for me to speak with them, as he has learning disabilities and doesn't understand what they are saying. But EVERYTIME we call to check if theres a hearing date yet, he has to verbally tell them to speak with me.

The last time he called, the lady was a jerk and told him he needed to get his own records! I let her have it when I got on the phone! DONT dare make my hubby or son feel inferior around mama bear  Wink

I hope yall hear something soon!
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Age at Application: Hubby is 40 (FIGHTING for him!)
Disability: Neurofibromatosis, legally blind in right eye, multi tumors thought the body resulting in severe pain.. Thanks to NF! Also has a shoulder issue due to work injury and has met MMI.
Date Applied: May 2010
First Approval/Denial Date: DENIED late 2010
Reconsideration Approval/Denial Date: DENIED early 2011
Hearing Date: WAITING for ALJ Hearing date
ALJ Approval/Denial Date: Hearing was March 28, 2012... Fully Favorable. Bench Decesion!!! Yessssssss!
Date Award Letter Received: Received Fully Favorable letter in the mail 5-3-12
Additional Info: Also waiting FCE for work injury (5-11-11)
Mousey
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« Reply #7 on: December 23, 2011, 12:43:16 PM »
cureNF,

You go girl!!      bravo bravo bravo Let em have it!!!  argue ranting poke Nothing wrong with a mama bear protecting her Den!!!  family


Mousey
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Taking it one day at a time........
Name: Mousey
Location: IL
Age at Application: 48
Disability: Massive Heart attacks 7 stents-COPD-asthma-Spinal Fusion-Fibromyalgia-PTSD-Depression-Anxiety-Agoraphobia-Autoimmune Disorders-Medullary Sponge Kidney & Kidney stones - Graves-Sciatica-Osteoarthritis-Etc.
Date Applied: 10/09 age 48
First Approval/Denial Date: Denied 7/10 age 49
Reconsideration Approval/Denial Date: Filed 9/10 Denied 11/10 age 49
Hearing Date: April 10 2012. Bench Decision..Approved!!!
Additional Info: This process is so frustrating!
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