He told me what I already figured was true, but I guess I had been in denial about it as it was a very hard pill to swallow. He told me to call him back after I've had 6 months of consistent treatment with a therapist and psychiatrist (it doesn't matter that I've struggled for the last 18 years and have a long history of unsuccessful treatment...only this last year will count, and my treatment for the last year is lacking, at least according to Social Security). He also said I will "100% get denied again" when I file my first appeal (my initial application was denied a couple of days ago) because my case is so complex. He said I will likely have to wait until I can bring my case before a judge...he also said that currently where I live there is a 16 month waiting period to go in front of a judge.
I asked him what I am supposed to do to survive in the meantime. He said that was the "million dollar question" and recommended getting a job that pays less than $750/month (I thought that was a no-no?), to stay in treatment (which I was intending on doing anyway), and to still keep going with the process and file my appeal, and that I can call him back after my first appeal is denied.
...reality checks are hard