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jessidarklighter

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Help; need somewhere to go
« on: January 02, 2017, 11:18:42 AM »
Hopefully by posting under this topic people will understand this message. I suffer from several psychological disorders including Major Depressive Disorder. I am fully aware that I am becoming more and more unstable by the day, but none of my coping habits are working anymore. My last option is to get somewhere where I can stretch out, sleep, and not be disturbed by other people. I can not begin to relate how important this is. If I can't use this last chance remedy, it is very likely I will have to admit myself to a hospital. I have no money, so no can do a hotel. Last time I did this, I went camping, but the weather is shifting mildly through chilly to freezing and also damp to hail, so staying in a tent is out as well. I have no family or friends nearby I can go to. So does anyone have any ideas where I can go?

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Re: Help; need somewhere to go
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2017, 12:20:29 PM »
Try a church near you.

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Re: Help; need somewhere to go
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2017, 02:26:55 PM »
Have you talked to your doctor ? A church could tell you where homeless shelters are and free/sliding scale clinics and teaching hospitals.
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Re: Help; need somewhere to go
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2017, 04:51:15 PM »
How long do you need to be by yourself?  Can your husband take the children out for the day & have it be enough?  Or does it need to be multiple days?

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Re: Help; need somewhere to go
« Reply #4 on: January 02, 2017, 10:11:24 PM »
.... My last option is to get somewhere where I can stretch out, sleep, and not be disturbed by other people.... I have no money, so no can do a hotel.
I was suggesting the church because, sometimes, they are able to help with a place or maybe a little money to get a motel room.
I know they help with food and have heard they help with rides to doctors. I've also heard of them helping people find some shelter and helping people to keep their lights on. I was thinking, maybe, they could rent you a room for a 'night or two'?

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Re: Help; need somewhere to go
« Reply #5 on: January 03, 2017, 02:12:50 PM »
blgreens, under the circumstances a church or any place is going to refer the OP to their doctor or hospital. It is also a matter of liability.
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Re: Help; need somewhere to go
« Reply #6 on: January 03, 2017, 03:33:16 PM »
Your city should have a womens shelter,call there and ask to stay.
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Re: Help; need somewhere to go
« Reply #7 on: January 03, 2017, 05:41:51 PM »
My mental state is such that I've been afraid to reply to the kind suggestions here, but a day of fruitless searching has me frustrated enough to want to share my situation.

After I wrote this thread, I had a very long discussion with my husband. I had been trying to protect him from the truth of just how fractured I'd become, but his behavior eventually made me break down and tell him all of it. From there I crammed a camp mattress into the back of his car, and set up a small sanctuary in a parking lot. A few hours later I realized that my husband was going back to work today (tomorrow at the time) and as there is only one car, I would have to return home and stay there to be on hand for the care of the children. I pushed this realization to the side and intended to stay out as long as possible, until I began to recognize the progression of physical symptoms that was unfolding...the bronchitis is back, and can well unfold into pneumonia. At that point I gave up and returned home where I did my best to shut myself in my bathroom with steam to help my breathing and a tv show to distract my thoughts.

Today, after a long discussion with my therapist, I gave in to the long standing battle and agreed I should seek medication management. (The reason for abstaining was not an ethical one, it was driven entirely by the fact that during my last treatment with medications, family services threatened to take my children on grounds of "overly medicated parent" who was unfit.) However despite the therapist sending an email advising the need for immediate treatment, family services was unwilling to pay for me to attend medication assessment. So I started looking for other resources.

Which leads me back to the suggestions people have made. I live in the middle of nowhere, next to a small slice of southern traditionalist christians that are stuck in a previous time. As I am a younger than middle aged woman with multiple visible tattoos and unnaturally colored hair, a good portion of even the most well intentioned church administrations nearby will turn up their nose at any conversation past the extent of making sure I love god and jesus. The few that provide services to all despite any cultural boundaries are so overloaded with needy people the best they can offer me is help with a meal here and there. I did at one point investigate the idea of going to a woman's shelter, but was told at that point that I would have to cease all contact with my family while staying there, so that option was out.

So I am now stuck in the same conundrum with my failing mental health as I had with my physical health. As a wife with private insurance, I don't qualify for assistance available for the uninsured, and a visit to an official facility cost a co-pay up to 100 dollars per provider. The only way to get immediate assistance is to go to the hospital...which has several complications. First, I'm fairly sure family services would use it as an excuse to call me unfit again. Second, the obvious backfire of costs that will show up eventually. Third, the last time I went to the hospital asking for medication for mental issues, I was sent to a nearby branch of the local mental health providers, who then came to the sudden realization of how unstable I was and immediately booked me into the nearest psychriatic hospital, which unfortunately is 2 hours away.

Guys, I'm just screwed. Just shoot me and get it over with.

 

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